Give in Married ?

Posted on June 24th, 2008 in LifeStyle, Women Info marriage, tips

Somebody said Mr. or Ms. Right is at the hand of God. The problem if he doesn’t come will you refuse what your parents give you ?

Maybe you remember the story of Siti Nurbaya was forced to marry Datuk Maringgih, or maybe our parents got married by means of their parents.

Once upon time, give in marriage is common, because the chance to see the partner is limited. But now, commonly our parents , friends will present a marriage partner if we are old enough to marry.

The problem is to get a Mr. Right experienced by close personality, difficult to deal with men, or just broken hearted that reluctant to open her heart for a man.

That is what experienced by Ida ( 32 ) confessed wanted to be married by her parents because of broken hearted. Ida and his husband make love for several months before marriage. And you her husband is 16 older than her.

But she confessed that she could fall in love after filling the marriage for 3 years and after having a baby. “ I feel like a serve my husband just an obligation, I think this life is tasteless “ she said.
According to Widiawati Bayu, Psi from Kassandra Associates, to introduce by her parents or friends are not bad, it just help. Whether it continues to marriage or not , it all depends on them.
Besides of parents , we can get marriage partner by internet, or like marriage biro like in compass newspaper. The point is to get acquaintance.

Cat in the sack

Many doubts emerges when we hear “ Give in Marriage “, like short time introduction, not growing love, and depressed because being forced by the environment, often like buying a cat in the sack.

According to Widiawati, we can avoid it by increasing the meeting session or communication like by sms, telephone or e-mail.

By doing this, so you can open heart each other . You had better do it for one year before deciding to get married.

How if family insists, if the acquaintance is short you had better consult to physiologist.
He will give the description about the progress and the changing role of husband and wife, and more she will give the personality of both of them.